Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Choice Theory

The Ten Axioms of Choice Theory
The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
All we can give another person is information.
All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
All we do is behave.
All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology.
All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable.

6 comments:

Terence Hill 250-469-3160 said...

Hey John, check out the comment I made to you in Radical Acceptance comments, I think it might help!

Kyrie said...

I never knew Total Behavior had thost components...

Thank you for sharing this, I learned something new today :)

Sandra said...

I agree that our thinking and acting affects our feelings and our physiology. We do choose what we think even though sometimes it really seems like somebody else makes us think and feel a certain way. It is a simple statement but, to me, very difficult to live by. Can't blame it on somebody else if it's all about how I think and act.
Sandra
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terry said...

Hi Sandra, yes it is very dfficult to filter out all the outside stimulus. I wish it was'nt so difficult to be our own best friend. We tend to be better to others than we are to ourselves.

Unknown said...

I have a question for you along these lines. What if your mate has become so addicted to the on line vedio game "World of War Craft" that he plays it non stop. And prefers his vertual life to the one he has to you? I just am having a hard time making myself leave him like this

Terence Hill 250-469-3160 said...

How does your mate playing video games affect you Katty?

What do you think about it and feel about him choice?

what do you want from him?

How do you react?

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